...When the second tower was hit I knew that our nation had been forever changed.
In this post, I look at the first of the three points in the “After Shock.”
1) When you are handed an unexpected blow, a challenge you are forced to face, you need to also know that your life has forever changed.
There is no more contemporary and universal example of this truth than that of September 11th. I’m going to use, however, the Greek myth The Abduction of Persephone to help me illustrate my point. Because we are very much like a Persephone in the time that follows a shattering experience. We’re like her mother Demeter, goddess of the harvest too but we’ll talk about her in the next post.
There’s a mirror in the top portion of this work of art because like Persephone, we as a nation, lost our carefree and protected youth. Our innocence lay in the dust, emotional rubble and confusion of September 11th. There was no way that we could rebuild what had been brought down.
Why is this important? Why do I keep drilling this point? Because once something has been broken, it can not be rebuilt. If you use all your energy working to rebuild, you are working on an imposable task and you will remain stuck and being stuck hurts really bad. That’s why this is important.
I don’t want you to stay stuck. Stuck can look like PTSD. It can look like hyper doing, addiction and/or depression.
Is there reason why some people are determined to rebuild and in so doing remain stuck? Yes, because they are afraid to grieve, the important second step in the “After Shock.”
Staying stuck is “constipated grief”